Shelton & Brandi

Hello! We're Brandi & Shelton Koskie. Since 2006 we’ve been one of the many couples on the In Vitro Fertilization journey. We were the first IVF fundraiser blog, and thanks to the generous help of many, in we had our first successful IVF attempt. Nine months later, we had a beautiful girl, Paisley. You’re invited to follow along on our journey from infertility to parenthood.  Learn more

Send A Stork Campaign

FreeIVF.com is a great organization that raises money to give to infertile couples pursuing IVF. I received an email today with their fundraiser information. The letter below is straight out of the email. If you would like me to forward it to you (as it will have the live PayPal button) just let me know. This is a really worthwhile organization that helps so many couples… Shelton and I included.

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Did you know that more than 7 million people in the United States suffer from infertility?  Infertility is a disease that affects the reproductive system prohibiting many loving families from bearing children.  Despite the staggering number of people who are plagued by this devastating disease, infertility is not recognized by most medical insurance companies.

The average cost of Assisted Reproductive Technology treatments, such as In Vitro Fertilization, is $15,000.  Without insurance coverage or other means of financial assistance to offset the cost of these treatments, many infertility sufferers cannot afford to realize their dream of parenthood.  At Free-IVF.com, we believe that miracles should not come with a price tag.

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Seriously?!

Before I start, I cannot even believe I’m going to open the gates on this subject. I have a level-headed position on the subject- 99.9% of the time. It’s just one of those subjects right up there with politics and religion you shouldn’t discuss in polite conversation. And we here at BOB are all about polite conversation………… ha!

I was on my FSA provider’s Web site tonight looking through eligible expenses. The very first item under eligible expenses- meaning FSA dollars are approved by the US government- Abortion. You can get an abortion and basically have your insurance cover it.

HOWEVER!

Not only do I want to KEEP my baby… and have to go to EXTREME measures to get that baby….. my insurance company won’t have a damn thing to do with me!

AND…. AND… the US government will not acknowledge it either.

I also live in a state where it’s legal to carry a gun… but you can’t use a slot machine or buy beer on Sunday.

Right up there with how many licks… I believe this will go down as one of life’s truly unanswerable questions.

On another note- Do not even waste your breath or the muscles in your fingers sending me nasty emails about abortion.

And another note- IVF expenses are covered under FSA.

Congrats are LONG Overdue

I was notified a few weeks ago that some loyal BOB readers, probably since day one, have had a baby. They requested that their names be withheld to protect the innocent. So, I’m honoring that request.

Of all the people who’ve reached out to us in the past year, and been involved with IVF/infertility as well, they’re the first couple to have had a baby. They beat the odds! They won! They said HA-HA in the face of whoever it is that said they couldn’t!

They are in a similar male-factor infertility situation. She was very sweet and said “It is with a little apprehension that I write – but “HUSBAND” says – it should give you guys hope.” Indeed it does, and I was so glad to hear from her.

They welcomed a beautiful, healthy baby girl in early July. The little gal arrived about a month early- but everyone is happy, healthy and home.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!! Hopefully this gives a little hope to all of you as well.

Baby Showers

I have had my fair share of weak moments during our infertile-ness. But for the most part, I manage to keep it together. I get a little sad and queasy when I hear about new babies and people sharing ultrasound photos and telling about the life-altering experiences they’ve shared with their spouse in the delivery room. But ultimately, I don’t come unhinged.

Except at baby showers.

Those are doozies. I don’t know about you, but they kill me. Grab hold of my heart and just wrench. This spring I’ve attended several baby showers (and hosted one) and I’ve had to walk out in the middle of each to cry myself into hysterics. Nothing looks more pathetic than sitting in the middle of a stranger’s bathroom floor with rivers of mascara flowing down your face and wads of toilet paper in your hands because “mommy-to-be” just opened the hand-stitched, monogrammed baby blanket from great grandma.

It of course has nothing to do with the guest of honor and everything to do with my curiosity if those painfully special moments will ever happen for me too? People ask me how I handle it, if I get jealous, if it sucks being at showers… Answers are Quietly/Of course/Sometimes.

What doesn’t bother me, is being around new babies. I could drink up their wonder all day long. But there is something about the atmosphere of a shower that will bring me to my knees.

I love and adore each of the women I have been to a shower for. Our closest friends have been poppin’ out babies all year long – so it gets a little easier with each one. And I’m enjoying the snuggly-wugglies from all of these beautiful little babies.

3 Months- I’m a jerk!

OK, I didn’t realize it had been THREE MONTHS since I last posted. I’m a jerk! This is disgusting. While there are no excuses, I will tell you that Shelton and I have achieved a level of unstoppable busyness over the last few months that I’m just going to offer that up and hope you’ll accept.

So, I just wanted to throw out my apologies, hope you’ll still like me and then I’ll begin making posts to get you up to speed……….. without a 14-page post about 101 different things.

Home Sweet Home

Our home, early on at Baby or Bust, was a point of contention for some. I’ve never really discussed the horrifying, utterly disgusting emails Shelton and I received during the first few months of Baby or Bust. With people having nothing better to do than spend time forwarding that unkind, filth to me, I didn’t think it warranted much attention. I had written on the “About Us” page that we had just purchased our second home. I meant the second home that we had ever owned, not that we’ve got a home in the South of France where we summer.

People were kind (make that ruthless) in pointing out that we didn’t need a home. If we got this baby, where were we supposed to take it- to a van by the river? It was a huge 90-year old house that oozed with character and charm. For anyone who has ever owned a home with this much “Character” and “Charm,” you know those terms are translated to “Repair” and “Checkbook.” It was a constant work in progress for us and one we knew we’d never be able to keep up with.

After a lot of thought and consideration, especially knowing that Wichita would not always be our home, we decided to sell her. I believe I mentioned we were planning to do so or had just begun a while back. It took only 6 weeks to find someone who would love her just as much as we did. We got a fair price considering we’d been there less than two years.

We sold the house on June 18 and moved into our new apartment the weekend before. People think we’re out of our gourds for selling a house to move into an apartment. But it’s saving us so much money. It’s saving us stress and time. It’s allowing us to “pull up anchor” and explore our options. I hate the idea of burning money in an apartment, but the pros at this point time seem to outweigh the cons.

Let me tell you- it was no small feat moving three floors into an apartment. My brother said he’d seen barns smaller than our house. (Don’t kid yourself- we paid less than a hundred grand for that place). Having grown up in little houses, I was beside myself to move into my version of a mansion. And of course the intent was to bring a little baby home to make those walls seems a little smaller. But now we’re in the apartment where the dog (Tibet) and the golf clubs seem to be duking it out for space under the dining room table. It’s not quite that bad- but we’re purging A LOT of stuff because it’s just impossible to make it all fit and still let this place resemble a home and not the A-Plus Storage.

Can I just say, that I bawled like a baby when I handed the keys over to the 9-month pregnant buyer. She was due in like three weeks and I just couldn’t help but be a pinch jealous that she was getting to do what I had intended to do with that house- bring home her first baby girl. I asked which room they were going to make the nursery. It would be the room we had used as a den. I really do hope they are all adjusting well in their new/first home.

So that’s the story on the house. I’m STILL unpacking, still unorganized. And for the OCD-Annie that I am, it’s just unacceptable and making me crazy. But we’re slowly fitting everything in.