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Six

Monday, August 11th, 2008

I’m a little delayed in posting this, but you’ll have to excuse me because I was in a love-drunk fog yesterday. It was our anniversary. The sixth one. We’ve said “happy anniversary” to one another six times. My mom said it best when she told me “Isn’t this like your tenth?”. To which I replied “no.” She then said, “Well, it feels like it should be.”

WE ARE NOT THAT OLD MOM!!!

There are days when I feel like Shelton and I should be celebrating our golden anniversary; beat each other with our canes and wash each others dentures in the morning before making a breakfast of soft foods. There are also days when I feel like I’m just recovering waking up from my wedding reception.

This goes down as one of our most memorable anniversaries. It was simple and romantical and Shelton did a lot of sweet things. We ended up with a 3-day weekend and just soaked up every minute we could get together. We talked about the good, the bad, the ugly and what lies ahead. A small gift to Shelton was a box of chocolates from a local artisan chocolate shop. Each year on our anniversary we try to give the “traditional” wedding gifts. It’s always something random and a somewhat loose interpretation of what the list suggests. The sixth anniversary is candy- so we enjoyed the chocolates after our dinner at home last night.

I am so in love with this man. Like most married couples, most days I don’t see it and it takes an event to force my eyes open. Yesterday was one of those. I am thankful for his friendship, his love, his commitment, his patience, his honesty and his ability to always make me feel loved and appreciated.

What really struck me was that it was another anniversary without children. We don’t need babysitters to go out and celebrate. We don’t have to sacrifice the romance of our day because the kids want to watch SpongeBob and eat hotdogs. The most distraction we have is the dog snoring under the bed. When my mom was celebrating her sixth anniversary she had had her third child six months prior.

We had a lot of talks about becoming parents and starting a family. Reassuring one another that we will see that day… and many more anniversaries.

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School Boy

Wednesday, July 11th, 2007

My husband is amazing- in case I haven’t mentioned it before. He has sacrificed time and time again for me since the day we started “going out.” Whether it be a TV show that I’d rather watch, foregoing restaurants that he’d rather not eat at but will because I love it, sanity, time and even his education- he constantly bends over backwards to make me happy. And this isn’t something that goes unnoticed or unappreciated. It’s who he is and I love him for it.

What the hell is she rambling about- you’re probably wondering. Shortly after Shelton and I married he decided to quit school. It was a decision I fought fiercely, because I knew the likelihood of him ever returning was slim and I knew it was something he’d regret later on. He justified by saying that I was so close to graduating and starting my career that he would quit now, work full time and let me finish. So that’s what we did.

Last year he found out that his company offers full tuition reimbursement. I told him, as a loving wife would, that basically he was an idiot if he didn’t take advantage. So he has been back in school for a year now- working to complete his bachelor’s degree in MIS. I’m so proud of him. He’s got a 4.0 GPA, loving his classes and really excited about where this is going to take him.

That’s where he is tonight- and four other nights of every week until 10pm. We don’t see much of each other these days. Pass on the way to work in the morning, inhale our dinner in an attempt to at least spend that time together and then cuddle up at bedtime. It’s a small price I’m willing to pay now to secure our future, and more importantly his happiness.

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July 1

Wednesday, July 11th, 2007

Just like most husbands, I have failed to wish Baby or Bust a timely HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!! On July 1, BOB turned one year. It all kicked off last July with a “test” donation from my brother, Kyle, and quickly turned into more than $6,000 in donations. Unbelievable. Our goal was of course not met, but I think we never anticipated receiving that much. From perfect strangers no less.

BOB has definitely been a wild ride for Shelton and I. This was yet again one of my wild whims that he gave into. But I just knew I had to do it. Strip away the donations, I just wanted to provide a place where the average Joe, like Shelton and I, could find valid, real-life information about infertility. I knew if I were looking for it and couldn’t find it, then I certainly couldn’t be alone.

We’ve heard from hundreds and hundreds of people from right here in Wichita to Spain, Australia, Switzerland everywhere in between. I think it was less than a week that we received a donation from a woman in Madrid, Spain. It was a perfect example of how quickly the Internet unites us and makes the world oh-so small.

Shelton and I did several radio interviews, the CBS Early Show interview, made front page of the Wichita Eagle and have been featured (and kicked in the teeth) on countless Web sites. It was this press coverage that helped BOB to be as successful as it has been and we are grateful to all of the media representatives who saw in us a story worth sharing.

I’m proud of this site and I’m proud of the attention it has brought to infertility. I’ve learned that the people who need this site have found their way to it. I’ve learned that ultimately, laughing about this has been my best medicine- and I hope it’s yours too. There’s nothing we can do about it. My life is too short to waste it feeling sorry for myself and what if-ing myself into corners I can’t back out of. I’ve learned to appreciate the abundance in my life and not to take an ounce of it for granted- the support of our families, the love of our friends (and who the real ones are), the gift of two really great jobs, our perfect health, the strength of our marriage. I’ve learned the generosity of strangers- and I’m now more inclined than ever to reciprocate that generosity at every opportunity I have.

We recently renewed our domain name, so we’re going to be around for a while. This past year would not have been possible with out the encouragement and support of all of our friends and family, the thousands of visitors to our site, the overwhelming generosity of the donors and emails filled with kind words and support.

Happy Anniversary Baby or Bust- and thank you to each of you for making it possible!!

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